August 30 at 1:16 am #7058
Let me just say at the front that I get the need for drinking. It’s a great escape with an awesome buzz that helps you just relax and go crazy and forget about the stress that have been bothering you for a while or during your work week. I used to do it all the time. But years of doing it have cause some new health issues and I have been forced to slow down or if at all possible, stop.
After that I have lived a pretty quiet alone life trying to get my life in order but then I met this girl. We have been going out for about 3 months and we have fallen in love with each other. But unfortunately circumstances have put us in a long distance relationship. This is the first time I have even allowed myself the option for a Long distance relationship so it is scary enough as it is.
But the thing is that my girlfriend does like to go out to bars and go to night clubs and drink, which is fine. As I said above I understand the reasons for it. But I’m starting to find myself majorly concerned about it. I know what alcohol does and how it makes people feel but I know that people still have self control when they drink over major stuff.
I just want to know if it is possible to learn how to be okay with it. I trust her completely but nagging piece of my heart and mind won’t stay quiet and I just want to tell them to shut up. She hasn’t done anything to make me scared or distrustful but I still worry and the old jealousy monster is lurking out of his cave.
Is it possible to learn how to be okay with it completely or will I never have peace when she goes out for a drink?
We also live very far apart. Like 22 hour transit time by plane apart.
Anything would be a big help.
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